Have you ever tried to find your life goal or purpose?
If not, then you must try it.
Now the question is how one can find one’s life goal and purpose and why it is important to find one?
To answer these questions, I have pondered a lot.
At least I lay too much stress to find life goal just because I have observed its significance in my own life. I know what does a purposeful life really mean.
I can’t forget the moments which I spent on anxieties and incompleteness.
Since the moment I found and struggled for my own life goals, I started feeling complete.
I felt satisfied and got rid of the chaos. Because it’s a great blessing to be fulfilled with peace and satisfaction.
I myself experienced the difference between both states.
I don’t think I’m saying something extraordinary. All the successful people and motivational speakers always insist to do what you wish to do.
You must watch this wonderful video that will convince you to find your own unique life goal or purpose.
You have seen that there is a number of people telling you and convincing you for the same things.
But why? Can you answer it?
If you can’t then I tell you the reason. Actually, most of the people in this world spend their whole lives to do what people want from them. And when they come to the deathbed, it becomes their biggest regret.
Not to be what they always wished to be is one of the regrets people suffer most.
So, those who know the value of being what they want to be, to do things that were their own desire and wish, they not only do their best but also convince others not to waste their lives and regret at the end.
That’s why it’s our topic today, that how we can do which will not let us be regretful at the deathbed.
How can we trace out the goals by attaining which, we will feel complete and fulfilled?
Most of us even don’t know what they want to do, and it’s really harder for them to figure out what they want to do. Because we have too many distractions in our lives.
That’s why we can’t be specific to our goals and purposes.
We don’t want to lose any of them and hence we won’t be best in any of the goals.
People who want to do all the things simultaneously, become a jack of all but master of none.
Come with me, let’s find out the life goal that will let you feel complete and happy in all of your life and will never let you regret at the dying.
The goal which will give you mental satisfaction and will realise the real meaning of success. Because success is only being the best of what you already are – which you may not know.
Space which I felt in my life, maybe, you too feel that emptiness.
Let’s complete that emptiness and the only way to complete that emptiness is to follow your heart.
Is it ever late to achieve your life goals?
It’s often said that it’s too late to be what you want to be.
I really don’t believe so.
Whenever you find your life goal; its exact time to achieve it.
Suppose, you’re 30 and you don’t do what you want from your life or what your life wants from you.
Now something changed your approach and you want to find out and achieve your life goal and purpose.
Some questions may appear in your mind.
- Have you wasted your time?
- Should you really strive to find out your life goals and purposes?
- Will it be effective?
- Will you really be able to achieve your life goal and purpose?
The answer to all these questions is Yes. You should definitely start your journey.
No doubt, you have learnt a lot of things in your previous 30 years that may prove useful to achieve your life goal.
I want to give you an example to elaborate and make it much more clear for you.
If in your previous life you may have helped your friends and fellows by counselling and giving them a better approach without any reward. Then it’s possible that you want to become a counsellor and it will be your life goal.
You may become a matchless expert in your field. As you will study books on counselling and you have real examples of people and their solutions, you’re in a better position to help and assist people.
It means that it’s never too late.
You should chase your goal without thinking about the time that has gone. It was not wastage. It renders you the necessary experience to win the destiny.
Now let’s find out the life goals you have, that will make you feel happy, peaceful and successful in your life.
Steps to find out your life goal and purpose.
There are many possible steps to find your life goal. But I will only tell the steps that I have experienced in my life and that actually work in common.
So if you really want to figure out your life purpose then you should go with me step by step. Because these steps will only work when you have free time to think about your goals and yourself.
Step 1: Make a list of your goals and wishes.
It’s the first step that helps you to understand yourself. It will assist you to acquaint with your goals and make you assess your life goals and temporary wishes.
You may have a lot of wishes. Write down all of them. All of these are not your life goals or purposes.
Most of them temporary wishes.
I can give some wishes that a person may have. It will help you find out yours.
- You want to buy a luxurious car.
- You want to buy a big house.
- You want to collect a huge amount of money.
- You want to become a doctor.
- You want to get a handsome job.
- You want to build a successful business.
- You want to be a tourist.
- You want to be famous.
These are wishes or goals that most of the people have in common. But it’s possible that your list is bit different and a huge one.
Step 2: Find out the reason behind your wishes.
Anthony Robbins in his book has said,
Everything we do, we do for a reason.
That’s why you must have some reasons for your wishes and purposes.
It’s essential to find out the reasons behind your wishes. Because it will help you to understand and find a goal that will make you happy and successful.
Let me help you find out the reasons.
Some common reasons behind a few dreams may be as follows:
If you want to buy a big house or a luxurious car, the reasons may be following.
- Reason #1: It’s believed that people who possess a lot of money, are successful. So, you want to be one of such successful persons.
- Reason #2: It’s possible that you live among wealthy people, and you feel deprived of money. So you want to get rid of this inferiority complex.
- Reason #3: It’s possible that you want to do all for your children.
If You want to be famous, the reasons behind may be following.
- Reason #1: We all want fame and the major reason is a sensual pleasure.
- Reason #2: You want fame to collect money.
If you want to become a doctor, the possible reasons are:
- Reason #1: Doctors are considered as successful and are valued.
- Reason #2: Your parents want you to become a doctor.
In the same way, you can find all the reasons behind your desires and dreams.
It’s possible that some reasons will be mean but you should write all of them, no matter how bad they are. When you realise the reasons behind whatever you want to do, It will be much easier to motivate your self.
You will be now able to get rid of the goals and dreams that are just because of reactions and temporary inspirations.
You should be able now to sort out how many dreams and desires are there, which you want to do for yourself and not for others.
Cut the rest of the goals.
For example, you see that wealthy people are successful you should also be wealthy. It means this isn’t your own life purpose. But the real motive behind this aim are the people who are considered as successful. It’s possible that wealth could not satisfy your inner.
So you cut down such unnecessary dreams.
Let’s go for another example, maybe that will help you find your real-life goal.
Someone had a list of dreams as:
- Billions of dollars.
- A luxurious lifestyle.
- Peaceful life.
It’s clear that someone wants to collect a lot of money just because to live a peaceful life.
It’s obvious that the actual dream was a peaceful life but that one was struggling hard to make money.
It means that the person is not on the right track. It’s the reason that most people never find peace in their lives. Because they don’t go on the track which can make them happy, peaceful and successful.
Now you’re in a better position to decide what exactly you want from your life and what are just distractions that will not let you feel complete in your life.
Step #3: Make a list of your expertise and talents.
You should figure out all the talents you have.
For example, if your life goal is to become a good writer. You will now mention that are you already writing articles or stories.
Because if you’re not already writing, it means this goal can be an inspiration and you can’t decide whether exactly you want to do it in your life or not.
It’s possible that you have met some best-selling authors or successful writers and you were inspired.
If this is so then it’s not necessary that you can fulfil your emptiness being a writer.
With this list, you will definitely be able to decide what exactly you should do to feel fulfilled and get rid of that emptiness.
This list will show what things you have done a lot, what you have done the least and which of them proved very pleasing for you.
For example, you’re confused to make a choice between a job and a business.
The list of your talents will make the choice easy. If you’re good at managing and planning, business suits you.
Otherwise, the job is better for you to display your related talents.
This list will also help you to try the dreams for which you have not applied yet.
It will make you able to decide whether it can become your life goal or not.
Step #4: Let’s test your goals and purposes.
I’m sure the list of your dreams and goals is not big now. It’s possible that you have come to know your life purpose.
Still, you should testify either you have got the right goal or not. It’s the right choice if your goals and purposes can pass a simple test.
Test your dream:
Is your goal according to the definition of life goal?
That is your struggle towards your goal is as satisfying as an achievement.
Is achieving your goal diverting?
Just for a second, be calm and stop rushing into any other matter. Because we have to look into your past and exposures to decide whether your life goal is diverting you or not.
So now, just think and tell me how much pleasing it is to achieve your life goal or life purpose?
Is every moment of your journey pleasing you or you’re looking for some good time to be happy as most of the people do?
If you’re satisfied and happy all the time on the journey you have started, then definitely it’s your right life goal.
And it will change your life completely.
If you’re as passionate during the journey as at your destination, you’re going the right way.
For example, the dream of my life is to become a great story writer. And truly speaking, every new completed story pleases me more than the last one.
It certainly means I’m on the right track.
If your strive makes you tired, you’re not on the right track.
If you expect the pleasure on the other end of your struggles, it certainly has no existence.
It’s a common mistake that most of the people struggle hard to settle down their lives and they believe that in the end, everything will be fine.
That end never comes.
If the hurdles on the way make you overburdened, the way is not your way. Because it is not your life goal if its hurdles don’t energize you.
In a nutshell, I will insist you find a goal of your life. So that you can spend a meaningful life.
Each and every moment of your life should add a step towards your destiny.
Death is the ultimate truth so why we should waste our life in pursuance of distractions? Why we should not pursue the dream which pleases us all the time?
I would like if you share with me how fruitful my discussion proved for you to find the goal of your life.
If you have found your life goal and purpose then you can follow these simple steps that will lead you to success.